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Some thoughts on relationships.

One of my Facebook friends, Mark Tomlinson Allen, from Croydon, Greater London, posted this on his timeline. I thought it was so amazing that I had to post it here.

Mark actually asked his friends to forward it with a photograph of themselves and their partner/spouse, but I forgo this as my spouse is very anti social media and would not appreciate being added. So sadly, I have no photo of us, but I’ve posted Mark’s with his wife.

These comments are something everyone should read, especially people just embarking on a relationship. Please feel free to reblog it. I’m sure Mark won’t mind.

For couples so eager to call it quits after the infatuation wears off, to throw in the towel on your relationship because everything isn’t ‘perfect’… here is some food for thought.

Lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is. It’s not waking up every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It’s not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep. It’s not a clean home, filled with laughter and love making every day.

It’s someone who steals all the covers, and snores, it’s slammed doors and a few harsh words at times. It’s stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your hearts heal, and then offering forgiveness. It’s coming home to the same person every day that you know loves and cares about you in spite of, and because of, who you are. It’s laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid.

It’s about dirty laundry and unmade beds. It’s about helping each other with the hard work of life. It’s about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud. It’s about eating the easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at a late hour because you both had a crazy day.

It’s when you have an emotional breakdown and your love lies down with you and holds you, and tells you everything is going to be okay. And you believe them.

It’s about still loving someone even though sometimes they make you absolutely insane. Loving someone isn’t always easy, sometimes it’s hard. But it is amazing and comforting and one of the best things you will ever experience.